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| alli30 |
Posted - February 18 2006 : 8:11:47 PM
I am an addict alcoholic and probably qualify for several other support groups as well. I have been sober for two days and off everything else longer than that. I started to college in January a freshman at 33 years old and I love it. I really am trying to straighten my life out. I was engaged in December and did some very stupid things, stealing money from my parents and lying and although we called off the engagement we still live together and are trying to work things out. By the way he also stopped drinking two days ago which just makes our house a bundle of nerves.
I have 5 daughters who range in age from 14-8 who my parents have custody of since they were really small, no court battle I wasn't in any shape to take care of them when I divorced their dad and thank god my parents were there. I have done so many of the people I love wrong and I am very ashamed of my past and I am in the process of paying my parents back and truely trying to stay straight.
On the flip side of my situation with my kids, the guy that I am living with went through a long custody battle for his daughter and has had custody of her for 2 years. I love her like she was my own. She had serious behavior problems which goes back to the way she was raised for the first 8 years, she is now 10 and is a master manipulator, plays on her moms side when she is there and then comes home and plays her dad. SHe refuses to do homework and throws the worst temper tantrums imaginable. She told her dad two weeks ago that she thought they would do better if it was just them to again she is always seeking attention even if it's the bad kind. I have loved this little girl for the entire to years and really tried to help her with schoolwork and learn responsibilities yet she fights me all the way and the great times that we go out and do something together always end up not being enough. Even her dad said that I don't send enough quality time with her yet the quality time we do spend together are followed by days of lying throwing 2 year old fits and it makes me so upset. My girls live one road over from me and we spend great time together and I reward them for good grades talk with them on the phone everyday but they have punshments also that are inforced to where my friends little girl doesn't understand that you get respect when you show respect. Anyway I know that I have went on and on but goodness it's driving me insane. Anybody have any suggestions about help in dealing with an out of control almost step daughter looking for answers not ready to give up.
Thanks for listening and I will be back, I definitely need all the support I can get and would love to be able to help others to maybe not make some of the bad decisions that I have made in my life. Plan to put my story also and look forward to meeting some of you all.
Alli
Looking hard for serenity!!!!!!!! |
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